Friday, February 10, 2012
And I think the problem is that I’m not always consistent with my follow-through, so it just fosters more negotiation. Because he knows that sometimes I can be swayed, so thinks he should try to get his way. Every. Single. Time. Sometimes it doesn’t seem like a big deal if he asks for one more book even though I’ve said we’re only going to read three. It’s one more book, right? It probably is nice to feel a little in control as a kid. Yet, when it’s time to eat lunch and he asks if we can play outside first and then he gets mad because I say no, I get irritated. I don’t want to always be saying no, no, no to all his ideas. But I also want him to realize that sometimes he just has to go with the program.
I think I just need to ask him for his ideas upfront on things I’m willing to alter. This would give him that sense of control that I think he wants from the negotiating. And then if I don’t solicit his thoughts, I just need to stick to my original plan (even if changing it wouldn’t be a problem) and not enter into the back and forth with him.
Why haven't I been doing this? How have I let things turn into a daily power struggle? As I type this out, it seems so logical. So simple.
Thursday, February 2, 2012
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
My cousin introduced me to Pinterest, and so now I want to craft and bake and redecorate. Inspired by a few "pins," I did a little crafting to celebrate love.
Just in case you're wondering: I used scrapbook paper to make the heart garland. Made a "love" template on the computer and then used it to cut out the felt letters. Behind the "love" is a page (four times) from Tuesdays with Morrie that was read at our wedding. And I filled the candle holders with conversation hearts.